Empath Teleclass Begins Friday
Hello Everyone!I'm happy to annouce the first session of my teleclass for Empaths and Intuitive Introverts! The first class is scheduled to being this Friday at noon pacific. If you are an Empath and want advice and information about how to manage your gifts, this call is for you. You can see more information and sign up for the class by going to:http://www.clearreflectioncoaching.com/EmpathyTeleClass.htmThe format of this call will be lecture and information based on a topic from my book, The Healing Journey for the Empath, plus small group coaching if participants have questions about applying this information in their own lives. I hope you will join in!Much Love,Elaine
Questions about Dealing with Emotional Dissociation
Hello I enjoyed your article on Intuitives, Empaths, and the Dissociated person. I am traveling through a very difficult time in my life and have literally felt like I don't know what hit me. I am an intuitive but just beginning my spiritual journey. I am a scientist with an open mind and am finding so much truth in the spiritual side of life. I have been married for 12 years and although my wife is a great mother (we have two boys), I have discovered that I am in an abusive relationship - abusive emotionally. I have discovered this after countless hours of research and reading and talking to many different people including a year of counseling (both with my wife and by myself). My close family members have told me for years that things were not as I observed - I was ordered around and not loved or respected. My wife is not a bad person, but we don't seem to function well together, unless I am taking care of all of the emotion. We are different creatures. I have felt like my energy has slowly been drained over the years and now I have nothing left to give to her.It appears that our marriage is over. I have no desire to jump through the next higher layer of hoops to win her over. We have both said that in our gut we know it is over. We are separted but still sleeping in the same bed and this is the plan for a year. I have withdrawn my emotional energy from her and I am feeling better, but at times she seems bitter. I am preparing to move on, but finding I feel uneasy and lonely at times.I have two questions in relation to your article. First, myself and others that I have shown this article to do not quite understand what is meant by the intuitive processing the dissociated persons emotional energy for them. I can understand that my energy field has been drained, but not the processing part.The second part of my question is, is it better to stay in a dead-end relationship for kids sake or is it more important for my soul and that of my children (and even my wife's) to move on and be true to myself and hope to find another person of similar spirit? I know similar people to me are out there, in fact I believe I met a soul mate of mine 10 years ago - we have been close friends since. I know there are studies, some of which say it is best to stay together (for the kids sake), but others say it is best to show the kids true happiness, which can't be found in the current relationship. So from a spiritual perspective, what is best for myself, my wife, and our kids? I truly believe that my wife is dissociated and has deep emotional sadness and pain (which I can't get to in order to help), therefore the direction that I am heading appears to match what your article recommends - step out of the way gently, which I interpret to mean that I should move on (I am not suggesting that your article is telling me to leave my wife!).I know from my core that I must move on. My counselor has told me this and he is helping me move in this direction - not pushing me but definately guiding me, my family has suggested this, my wife wants to. I guess since I haven't done this before, it does terrify me, but I also know that I am happy on my own and will always be - alone or not, my happiness comes from within. I love life, my job, my kids, and the journey that I am just starting. I am finding strength in my soul mate, friends, family, counseling, and wonderfully insightful articles such as this. I guess what I am looking for someone to tell me it is okay to move on, in fact it is the right thing to do. I definately have the strength to do this, but it is incredibly difficult at times. I know that you do not know me, so I am looking for a broader spiritual answer and not necessarily one specific to my situation. I am mainly concerned about my children and how this will affect them. I had hoped and expected to be with them every day of their childhood.Thanks for your time,NeoInsight
Changing the Collective Nightmare
Hello Everyone,Yesterday one of my clients asked me, "How do I stop feeling guilty for all my blessings when most of the world is in pain and has nothing?" While I didn't channel the pain of the world as my client has done, I did have guilt that kept me from really enjoying and embracing my life, when I was first getting started in my personal healing. After years of schooling in physics, and then teaching, I used to feel guilty that I was able to stay at home and work on my own dreams, write, and play, and do tons of self-care required to heal enough to be creative. (At the time I wanted to be a sci-fi and fantasy writer---I had no idea that I was going to be struck psychic and a practice as a shaman was coming.) From the outside, from external comparisons, I looked like a decadent weirdo. I had friends who were resentful and jealous that I was sponging off my first husband; I didn’t have to work as hard as they did. And I felt guilty and defensive, and yet, a really cool life that I dreamed of living was a life that included creativity, play, and not working very hard at dreary jobs. The reasons I felt guilty and defensive were that I also bought into the belief system that I had to work hard, that life was a life of suffering, and I wasn’t putting value on the spiritual and the creative aspects of life. No wonder I felt guilty! What I had to realize was, if I truly wanted a life of joy, I had to insist upon it. I had to use the circumstances I was born with---born into the middle class, given a great education, given a very well developed mind---as the foundation stones to make my life into the best life I could have. What I discovered as I did so was that Yes, there is a collective nightmare out there. And that nightmare is horrifying. All of us are part of the collective, so we are all susceptible to being caught up in it. At the same time, when I focused on what my Heart and Soul craved, life for just me became much, much happier and brighter. Because I was willing to commit to myself, I found this beautiful, universal, and intelligent creative force was matching my efforts and bringing me more and more. I discovered that the beliefs that we hold to be facts, and the emotions contained inside those beliefs, are what hold us prisoner in the Collective nightmare. When I decided to wake myself up, I was stepping out of the collective nightmare. What also began to happen is that my immediate circumstances began to change for the better. The people with the old belief system went away to be replaced with others with expansive, life-is-good belief systems. I have worked with clients who have invented their own prisons just by the beliefs that they keep. I have also worked with clients who are subject to the group think beliefs of their culture or family, and have a terrible time creating the lives that they want because the group think is so strong. And yet, every once in a while there is someone that breaks free of the collective. In every case that is because they were strong individuals, deeply commited to their souls and to their hearts. What this made me decide was that my feelings of guilt were a mistake. Somehow I was a product of my own culture's group think, too. That was just part of the start-button for all human beings. Freedom comes in learning how to cultivate that Soul Strength, that precious originality that we all have. And when we do that, then we become these magical creatures. The really neat thing that happened when I got this was that I found that the people around me started picking up on the changes going on inside me. My vibration was affecting the vibrations around me. By my healing myself I was healing others simply by my presence. I'd hear stories later of how I inspired them when I hadn't intended any such thing! It was now the reverse of where I had started from: one individual being beaten down by my local group think---I had now grown so powerful I could actually change the group think around me instead! So, perhaps the way out of feeling so guilty is to say, Yes, the world is as it is. It is full of pain, it is full of horror, it is full of unfairness, and very few people out there have purposefully created that for themselves consciously. That is all true. But, each of us has the power and the resources within us to gain personal freedom. You can gain personal freedom by acknowledging your own power. Ultimately, if you *do* commit to your soul, that will mean that you will have to indulge yourself in the best life has to offer you, and that might feel decadent. But it is precisely that mechanism that makes your Soul strong and allows you to change the collective nightmare into more of a collective dream of bliss. And man, do we need that!!!! I think each of us has the potential to change the world by our very presence. But to do that, you have to really commit to living a wonderful, happy life, revelling in it, engaging in it, and not denying the hard parts, too. I guess I don’t feel guilt at the state of the world any longer because I know that each of us has the same internal resources to heal themselves. And I also know that each of us must come to that healing in our own time and in our own way. And I know that it is a mystery how that happens! I know what I must do, and I put all my energy in following the calling of my Soul.Feeding your soul, commiting to your Soul's Journey is the surest and most honest way of changing the Collective Nightmare that I know of.Elaine
May 2008 Newsletter
Hello Everyone!I've created a new newsletter on my website for May. Included are topics around self-care and the challenge of healing work.http://www.clearreflectioncoaching.com/May2008Newsletter.htm Enjoy!!Elaine
Destiny Retrieval
Hi Everyone,I just returned from another Soul Retrieval Training given by the Four Winds. This training concentrated on Destiny Retrieval. Sounds intriguing, doesn't it!! Destiny Retrieval includes the art of journeying to the upperworld and retrieving healed states, gifts, and the essences of what we would like to create in our future. I have many inquiries from potential clients who want to have a Destiny Retrieval. However, the key to a successful Destiny Retrieval is to work on all the old stuff that needs to be put to rest (die) in order to bring in something new (rebirth) That means lots of soul retrieval work, extractions, and illuminations to clear the old imprints so the person's energyfield is ready to receive the new information.In my work with my clients, every once in a while, usually after several months of working together, I am not allowed into the underworld (where soul retrieval work is usually done) but told to go to the upperworld instead. Those times are very exciting for me because it's a sure indication that my client has done his or her work that they are ready! and the Great Spirit agrees.Destiny Retrieval IS wonderful, but it is powerful work. If we don't step into that powerful destiny retrieved for us, our lives can turn bad. I've actually seen this happen to people who don't have a formal shamanic destiny retrieval, but who instead commit to a big change in their lives (to go to school, to bring in the right mate, etc.) and then they don't take the steps necessary to bring it into being. So, it is important to recognize that we already do create our destinies with each dream we dream and each choice we make.The shamanic work adds more power to what we already do in a clear way. If you have questions or comments, let me know!Elaine
The Healing Process and Soul Retrieval
Hi Everyone, It is such an honor working with my clients. Each of them has committed to their own healing, which takes courage to go into the suppressed and repressed parts of ourselves. As my mentor, Greta, points out, no healing can occur when emotions or thoughts are repressed. When we consciously embark on our healing path these emotions and thoughts bubble up to the surface, which can be an incredibly painful experience. Allowing the pain to come up and to pass is difficult precisely because we have been repressing these emotions for a reason. Allowing this process takes courage, and it leads to lasting acceptance and forgiveness of ourselves and others. However, it can feel like we are moving backwards instead of forward when the pain arises. Much of the work I do with my current clients is around holding space for them as they go through the healing process. Soul Retrieval work brings to consciousness lost parts of ourselves that left because they couldn't handle the conditions at the time. That lost consciousness is returned, but sometimes it is difficult to see and to accept ourselves as we reintegrate these parts. Recently I had a client who had done years of personal work on herself and her need to achieve. Her drive toward achieving had made her ill, but she had used her illness to dive into her personal healing of her soul. She was struggling with acceptance of herself, with letting go the impossible standard she still felt she must live up to. The failure to meet these standards led to self hatred. During a soul retrieval, her soul part was willing to come back if my client could let go of her self-hatred and accept the parts that she felt were not up to standard. Until then, it couldn't help but leave again in order to keep itself protected. The fact that the soul part wasn't ready to come back was a blow for my client; here was someone else who didn't think she was good enough even after all the work she had done. If my client could see instead that she was on the right track, that there was no one external in her way any longer, only her own self concept, then she could begin to shift that on a deeper level. But, healing is a messy process. It sometimes gets worse before it gets better. And then at other times miraculous healings take place so deeply that the client doesn't remember what had been bothering them in the first place. I have had clients tell me that they didn't feel a particular soul retrieval was very profound, but from my perspective and their friends' perspectives, we noticed a huge shift in behavior. This is one reason I tell clients that there are no guarantees with Soul Retrieval work---it is just too mysterious to be able to predict how a session will go.
New Upcoming Workshop---children and parents
Hi All, I'm putting together a new workshop for parents of young children. As a new mother myself, I am learning as I go! This workshop will cover subjects such as how to create sacred spaces and containers for your children, how to keep your child heart connected so his intuitive and spiritual gifts stay intact, how to help the sensitive child (and the sensitive parent), how to help your children problem solve by tuning into your empathic gifts, and a few basics on energywork to help children and parents. If you have topics you'd like to see discussed, please let me know! I plan to have this workshop up and running by fall at the latest. Stay tuned! Elaine
Client Success Story
Hello Everyone, I just had the great pleasure of connecting with a former client of mine, Jagger Cook. When we worked together a few years ago he had mentioned his love of music, especially songwriting and singing. I'm so happy to announce that he has an album being released in just a few months! The songs are beautifully spiritual, but they are definitely Rock. I just love it! You can listen to four of them at http://www.myspace.com/jaggercook The making of this album is a tale of synchronicity and grace---Jagger I hope you'll share more!!Elaine
Energetic Healing, Energetic Contracts
A client asked:Hi!I have never posted a message on a discussion board before...but being that I just went through an energetic healing session with Elaine (who really rocks!) I am making good on the "welcome home party for my long lost soul part" phase.ANYHOO!My question is about Energetic Contracts - as in what are they? How are they formed? Does a person/soul impose it on themselves, or is some other person/soul involved??? How is it that they bind other family members (soul family members?) and/or the same soul over different lifetimes? Why are they so difficult to break??? Are there ones that are good too, not just ones that really suck a lot of energetic butt?Looks like my question kinda multiplied like bunnies there...Must be SPRINGTIME!;O) Wendy
Spirit versus Soul
A client asked:What is the difference between your spirit and your soul and how does one relate to the other?Jason
Life Transition
A request from a classmate:Elaine and friends,My name is Ann and we met at Sonia Choquette's Six Sensory Practitioner workshop in Chicago. I enjoyed connecting with you, Elaine, and Jenna, and am grateful for your efforts in organizing the phone call and encouraging the use of your discussion board. Thanks!I'm sure that one reason we connected is because you have made the transition that I am smack in the middle of...from one career to another and living more authentically as a six sensory person.I can feel my core energies getting stronger and stronger and the general vision for what comes next becoming clearer. I hope to learn more from you about how you managed your transitions as I make my way through mine.For now, I work at a university, coordinating computer training. The more my intuition grows, the harder it gets. The culture of not being real is stifling.The vision is to be self-employed as a feng shui consultant, combining floral design in my practice. Sonia Choquette recommended this in my reading, and I have been trying this on, with fun synchronicities along the way.I am listening for guidance about next steps...whether to leave my current locale - strong vibes for that -- and how, when....or whether to try to get more going here. Something in me wants to pick up and move to California and simply start a new life as my authentic self, with fresh new energy. And not a lot of money in the bank to do it with! :-)Any vibes or support or tales from your paths as I gather my courage and move forward would be appreciated.
I embraced my path, and now my life is falling apart!
Did you begin your spiritual path hoping to be more happy, centered, and successful, with more rewarding relationships, work, and abundance? Have you experienced your life falling apart instead?For me, and for many of my clients this is a common experience. Our dissatisfaction with life begins our spiritual search, and we become happier with the search, and then WHAM right when we get going life falls apart. What's going on here?My own thoughts are that when we truly commit to ourselves and expressing that self in the world, we come to a point where we must let everything that doesn't align with that true self go. Actually, all that doesn't fit is going anyway---it's our attachment to the old stuff (even if it was unhelpful old stuff) that hurts.I've gone through several of these clearing experiences over the years, and each time I've wound up more happy, centered, successful, with more rewarding relationships, work, and abundance. Now, I've learned to welcome the painful chaotic parts of this process, knowing that something better is right on the other side.Sometimes a kundalini experience accompanies the releasing process.What are your thoughts? Have you experienced this burning and rebirth process?Elaine